
According to modern custom I am supposed to be anticipatorily excited about this fast approaching romantic holiday - waiting, hoping, longing for showers of affection and physical tokens from adoring males or suitors on this celebrated day of love. I suppose women today demonstrate their affections too during this holiday but it mostly falls back on the Victorian tradition of men courting women, and not the other way around, with women remaining just a bit coy and coquettish. We women are to adorn ourselves ensuring that we will be the object of affection.
I'm not saying I have a problem with this - I don't mind the idea of celebrating the art of courtship and love and affection. I'm a fan actually!
But I would wager that there is a bit of anxiety on the part of both genders around this holiday. Men have the pressure of getting their special someone something fitting and true to the caliber of his love. And women are waiting anxiously wondering if he will come through to surprise them and demonstrate accordingly or at all (and this anticipation starts in grade school when I wondered if Luke would give me a Valentine, and if I should give him one!).
To add to that pressure this holiday is set aside to publicly demonstrate one's affection with especial flare, and, oh by the way, that the whole world is watching!
So while I am, as a woman, supposed to love Valentines' Day I admit to having that dread about it too. Am I supposed to give gifts (if I am a modern woman) or just make pretty? What will he get me? What if I don't get anything? From anyone? (thankfully, my son's first grade teacher has ensured that I will be, as a mother, honored with something in red construction paper - and it WILL be treasured!)
And when I say that the whole world is watching I mean that women are judging other women by what they receive ("wow, he must really really like her!", or "she must have some kind of something going on to get that!", or "bless her heart, he didn't even sign that old card!") and men are commiserating with each other about how to do what they must to sustain their positions or even enhance it ("what can I do to get her attention?!", or "come on man, tell me what I need to do to stay out of the doghouse", or "who came up this Valentines' Day anyway?!").
The good thing for men is that if they are challenged with poetic skills or the art of courtship in general- those who aren't natural-born Casanova's - there exists a formula. Roses are a sure bet (make that red roses) and chocolate is also sure to please. Dinner out is a nice added touch and you are all set! Viola! You have made it through this potentially treacherous day without having to venture out on your own.
But what if a suitor's true love requires more than the standard fare and isn't satisfied for another full 12 months until the next dreaded Feburary 14th by roses at her office desk, as the van-loads of bouquets systematically arrive on all her co-workers desks at the exact same moment.
What if one requires more, wants to demonstrate more, wants to go beyond the formula?
I wish I had the answer. I don't.
Here is what I do know.
What I do know is that food has a special link to the heart and perhaps even soul.
Good food made with care and thought takes us back to coveted feelings of being nurtured and sustained in our most trusted relationships - with our mothers and grandmothers - and has a natural celebratory air that something special to eat means it is a special day.
So while I don't have the answer or a remedy to the pressures surrounding Valentines Day, I am doing the best I know and am presenting food, made by hand, by women who care in Elkmont, Alabama.
This is what I know.
Buy one Greek Kiss (our signature chevre disc wrapped delicately in a brined grape leaf) and get one Free.
Here is to a great day, free of anxiety, filled with love and hugs and kisses from all your loved ones!
Happy Valentine's Day from Belle Chevre with Free Kisses!


